If you would have said five years ago that one of the cultural talking points would be transgenderism, people would have thought you were out in left field. Yet here we are.
The fundamental issue on this topic is subjectivity verses objectivity. Those who embrace the concept of transgender identity believe that you self-determine. If you want to be a girl, then you are a girl. If you want to be a boy, then you are a boy. Those who opposed the concept of transgender see it as objective truth. You are either XY or XX. Debate over.
The issue of transgender identity is just a symptom. The symptom of replacing God with yourself, and this is the source of all sin, not just this one.
The Bible is clear that God created two sexes, male and female. (Genesis 1:27). These two sexes are equal in value, but different in roles. The evidence of this truth is overwhelming. Anyone who claims that differences do not exist, or are merely cultural, is not operating within reality. What I think is ironic (but not surprising) are those who love to claim science as their god, but refuse science when it comes to gender.
Understanding that God has created men and women equal in value but different in roles is crucial in understanding the way families function well.
As can be seen in our text above (Colossians 3:18-19), God has designed men to be the head of the family. Wives are to submit to their leadership. In living out this leadership men are called to do so in love. The perfect picture of this love is found in Christ, who laid down his life for His bride (Ephesians 5:25). A good way to think about a Biblical marriage is dancing. For two people to dance, one will need to lead and the other will need to follow. If both lead, then toes are stepped on. If no one leads, you don’t get to dance. A truly elegant and beautiful dance occurs when each partner recognizes and embraces their role given to them by God.
At this point, some people may bristle up, but let me remind you again, rejection of this truth is no different than the acceptance of transgenderism. The question is always subjective versus objective. Or to say it another way, who is God, you or Him? If God is God, then Colossians 3:18-19 is the way it is. Debate over. To go against this design, is to go against the way God designed marriage.
It is interesting how many Christians struggle with the idea of equality and roles. This has always seemed hypocritical to me. Why? Because that is exactly what the Trinity is. The Father, the Son, and the Holy Spirit are equal in value but they are different in roles. Jesus obeys his father perfectly. He does not complain about it, but embraces it. Likewise the Spirit obeys both the Father and the Son, not begrudgingly, but with joy.
So let us live by the Spirit and submit to the will of our God, not with a heart of rebellion, but with a heart of faith.