Marriage is everywhere. It is the universal institution. People in this day in age want to argue that marriage is just a contract, an agreement between two parties, but if we are honest, we know that marriage is more than that. Marriage is deeper. There is a soulful longing in our hearts for a good marriage. This doesn’t exist in the realm of rental agreements. No, marriage is different. The question is why? Why does marriage hold so much power over our hearts?
Unfortunately, this question is rarely asked. Instead we talk about marriage at a very shallow level, scratching the surface of problems and pleasure. When we do this, we do a disservice to ourselves, our spouse, our children, and our God. So why is marriage so significant?
First, we need to understand that God does not create like we invent. There is no such thing as discoveries for God, only purposes. When God created a man and a women there was a purpose in mind. He tells us this purpose in Genesis 1:27, “So God created man in his own image, in the image of God he created him; male and female he created them.” The purpose of individuals is to display the image of God. Unfortunately, because of sin, this image is dramatically tarnished and grace through faith in Christ is necessary to restore this image.
Regarding marriage, we are told in Genesis 2:24, “Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife, and they shall become one flesh.” It should be noted that Adam and Eve did not have a mother or father, but yet God implements his design, once again showing that God has a purpose. So what is this purpose? If God created man and women to display the image of God, what does the union of man and women display? Paul answers this question in Ephesians 5:31-32.
- “Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and hold fast to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh." This mystery is profound, and I am saying that it refers to Christ and the church. “
If a couple came to me with a broken marriage, one of the first questions I would pose is, “What is the purpose of your marriage?” I am guessing few people would answer consistent with Ephesians 5, and therein lies the problem. If you are using marriage for the wrong purposes, you will be disappointed.
Think about a car. Its purpose is to drive on roads. If you take it for a spin on the lake, it will sink. The beauty about God's good design for marriage is that if you use it as it was intended to be used, to display Christ's love for his people, the ride will be so much more enjoyable. This doesn't mean there won't be pot holes, but it will no doubt be better then feeling like you are drowning.